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The Empty Nest is emerging.
Yes, in a couple weeks, our youngest son is heading out-of-town, off to post-high school yeshiva. That means, my husband and I will be alone in the house for the most part with no minors living at home anymore. (if you don’t count our married and adult kids plus grandchildren inhabiting our space informally…).
All these things are to be unfolded as we enter the new and emerging stage in our lives – one which I call the Empty Nest Celebration.
In the Empty Nest Syndrome, “syndrome” implies a set of signs that signify discontent. And to me it is not discontent, but rather celebration.
I’m kind of excited about it. Contrary to the typical moaning and groaning that I’ve heard and read about from new empty-nesters, (“oh – I am so sad; I’m going to miss him so much. I feel so lonely and useless without a child at home…”), I’m neither moaning, nor groaning.
I’m greeting this new stage in my life with excitement and wonder.
In fact, I’ve been preparing for it psychologically for many months now. As I, ever the eager mom, plan the shopping for linen and share that with my reluctant son who is not much of a shopper, (“Oh Ma, can’t I just take some linen from the linen closet?”) and mention to him about new pants, shirts and underwear (“Ma, I have enough. It’s okay…“) and some winter jackets (“Ma, Really? It gets cold on the East Coast? Oh right!”), I think about the emotional meaning behind the emptying of our nest, rather than the monetary emptying of our wallets.
I think about what this will mean for my husband and me. Will we bond even more? Will we discover things about each other that we didn’t have time to realize because the discussions always revolved around the day to day matters of the children? Will we we sit together over dinner – just the two of us and chat about our day like the old days before the kids arrived? Or something like that?
How has it been for you, my fellow emerging empty nesters?
Tags: empty nest syndrome, kids going off to college, middle aged loneliness, packing for college