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On Bubby Births and More

This week my good friend’s daughter gave birth to twin girls! Double Mazel Tov! What a simcha! Also, my niece had a baby girl, and my other niece had a baby boy! Double mazel tov there too! Thank G-d for all these Mazel Tov’s.

Meanwhile, I am  kind of (read: very very) excited about a personal Mazel Tov! – the release of  my book that tells the story of my birth as a Bubby! Five years ago, a Bubby was born; I became a grandmother. Not the first and not the last, and certainly not the only Bubby who was excited to become one (although it sure seems like that, from the way I tend to talk about grandmother-hood!). Nevertheless, I am a Bubby who decided to write about my perceptions, insights and funny stories  vis-a-vis my married children,  grandchildren, and adult children. Those writings —-and more —- evolved into the book, Mazel Tov! It’s a Bubby! – to be released on September 5, 2012, please G-d, in book stores.

And on September 11, the Bubby (that would be me) will be speaking at her good friend’s house at: 171 North Fuller Ave. in Los Angeles – from 7:30 to 9:30 pm. to promote her book, to sign books that people purchase beforehand from stores, and  bring with them, and to have some books on hand for those who want to buy over there (at a 15% discount while supplies last). Refreshments will be served. Please RSVP – by September 6,  if you plan to attend, at my grandmother/baby gear gemach website — at info@lababygear.com. 

What could be interesting about being a Grandmother? Well, to answer that question, one would have had to read the Binah Magazine which chronicled my birth and growth as a grandmother over the past five years.  And now – Mazel Tov! It’s a Bubby!   is a sequential collection of those stories in the order of how I experienced them, as well as many additional stories and topics that have never been published before.

I feel passionate about this topic, and look forward to meeting you all at the book signing, as we  share and explore the joys and oys of being a mother, mother-in-law and grandmother!

Mothers, mothers-in-law, grandmothers, daughters, daughters-in-law are all welcome!

Shabbat Shalom and Shana Tova!


Simchas and Stress

This morning I woke up feeling charley horse, achy, and with a sore throat. As I reached for the Advil, I wondered why I was feeling this way. True, I had attended an out-of-town  family wedding the night before, and yes, I had traveled quite a bit the past few days both by plane and by car. But I didn’t do much exercise to warrant all the achy feelings; aside from a little bit of circling around the bride in a joyful dance, I didn’t exert myself too much. I didn’t drink any wine, so no excuse for a feeling of a hangover, and I didn’t even stay up too late.

So why was I feeling this way? Well, to quote my friend, a Bubby: “traveling and simchas are always exhausting.” (a Bubby quotable quote!)  There is just no way out of it.  If every day, we have the usual stress of work and the phenomenon called life, then when we travel on vacation, and/or when we participate in family occasions, we have a unique form of stress: SIMCHA STRESS.

Simcha Stress:

This unique form of stress- (for those planning it, and for others who are close to those who are planning the event), manifests itself in  heartache or physical aches. Simchas, which are supposed to be happy occasions, are peppered with little annoyances and bumps in the road. Simchas, which are joyous weddings, engagements, bar mitzvah’s, and graduations are often accompanied by deadlines, pressure, lists, shopping, expenses, and endless details that cause lots of tension.

Simcha – which means “happy” in Hebrew, produces anything but simcha, for many. But at the end of the day, no one is changing the word, “simcha” to “lachatz” which means pressure in Hebrew. Nope. No one is saying, “hey, can you come to my lachatz next week to be held at the Hilton Hotel?

 Time to Smile:

No Jewish person on the East or West Coasts is inviting their friends to their wonderful Pressure Party. Not any time soon.

You see, even though I have experienced my share of stress amidst simchas in the past (including the achy shoulder that I have right now!), I still feel that no Jewish family should be without a steady stream of simchas – happy occasions — in their life.

Stress and all. We wouldn’t have it any other way.

Time to Count our Blessings:

I believe that simchas are what keeps us going. Simchas are the water that G-d sprinkles on our souls to fertilize our spirits to grow and soar. Simchas give us that message that G-d loves us, that life is good, that we are blessed, and that it is okay to feel happy and celebrate.

Simchas are times to socialize and accept mazel tov wishes.

And most of all, simchas teach us priorities, and help us realize what is really important. Even when little things go wrong and glitches arise, we keep our simcha as our goal — our families’ and friends’ happiness and joie de vivre.

Because when it all comes down to it, we can deal with a little bit of burnt chicken, canceled guests, and rain on the outdoor ceremony. After all is said and done, we can rise above the little inconveniences and feel gratitude to G-d for providing us with loving families, children, and grandchildren with whom to plan and celebrate simchas (and pressure too!)


Shaking and Quaking

It happened at 3 am. My husband and I felt it. The rest of our house did not feel a thing. “It” is a rather common occurrence here in California.  It was an earthquake – short, sharp and quick, but an unmistakable earthquake. We know our earthquakes, and yes – this was a real one. Whew. No seeming damage. It’s over. Thank G-d. Continue reading


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