Several months ago, sometime after the start of this grandmother or bubby blog, I started a new site just for mothers-in-law.
My goal for this site has to educate mothers-in-law on how to facilitate a health relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, or MIL and DIL, as we call ourselves. Subscribers to this site that addresses the needs of well-meaning but struggling mothers-in-law, can get lists and tips on how to make their relationships with DIL’s (and even SIL’s) wonderful. Continue reading
I have some friends and acquaintances whose initials of their first and last names are CC. Some even have the middle initial C, making their name CCC. A few of my friends are speech and language pathologists whose credentials are CCC. (Certified….something or other…I”ll google it later!). But, today’s brief topic is a different type of three C’s.
I read it on a 12-step list of concepts, relating to my struggle with overeating…and my powerlessness over food. Rabbi Dr. Abraham J. Twersky, expert in relationships, self esteem and addictive personalities, talks about it in all his Torah-oriented books. It has become one of my mantras for living and self-growth: I didn’t Cause it. I cannot Cure it. I cannot Control it.
There, you have it. The next time someone in my life’s comments or behaviors are particularly irksome, annoying, or inappropriate to me, I can simply accept the reality that I cannot fix others. I can only change myself.
All very simple sounding, and quite obvious. Yet this quotable quote is a reminder to me to focus on myself in growth, and “fuhgettabout” the others’ annoying stuff —- because I can’t do a thing about it anyway!
Okay – off to do my day now! Have a great and productive day!
Remember the CCC’s! They can really help out in a pinch!