Bubby Joys and Oys

A Place for Grandmas to Kvell, Kvetch and… Stretch

Helicopter Grandparents

We’ve all heard about helicopter mothers, the moms you see in the soccer field cheering their kids on from the stands, and if said kids do not happen to be on the winning team, these moms get very upset.

Hovering Grandparents Swooping Down...Be Careful....

Hovering Grandparents Swooping Down…Be Careful….

Helicopter Moms  –  coined by Jim Fay and Foster Cline, have  received a bad rap – and for good reason. These parents hover just above their kids’ heads (and hearts), watching their kids’ every move, and basically living their own life  through that of  their suffocating and frustrated children.

But what about Helicopter Grandparents? How do they fit into the picture? Do Helicopter Moms (and Dads) who are unchecked (and haven’t worked on themselves to undo their annoying helicopter behaviors) grow up to become Helicopter Grandparents?

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For Jewish Mothers-in-law Only?? (not!)

I have always admired Erma Bombeck.  I enjoyed her self-deprecating humorous writing about motherhood in suburbia at a time when most mothers were not admitting to the problems of raising kids. Raising kids was supposed to be noble and exciting and a pleasure for moms. The idea that someone would poke fun at being a mom and even complain, was novel.

I read almost all Bombeck’s books when I was a teenager.

No, that is not me- but it is Erma Bombeck, whose writing I admire...

No, that is not me- but it is Erma Bombeck, whose writing I admire…

Now that I have written a book using a similar style to Erma Bombeck (so I’ve been told), albeit with a Jewish twist (since I’m Jewish!), I have some splainin’ to do about my book.

You see,  since my book, Mazel Tov! It’s a Bubby! has been out on the market for 9 months, I can assess how well it has been doing (great!), regroup slightly (why not?), and dispel just a few misconceptions that may be floating out around there.

Let’s discuss one particular myth that surrounds the book, such as:  Is The Joys and Oys of Being a Mother, Mother-in-law, and Grandmother book only for Jewish mothers, mothers-in-law and grandmothers? Read more…

Sound Bites – Forever Ingrained

Watch  Your WordsRecently I was chatting with an old acquaintance of mine and she reminded me of some dumb comment I made in high school. Now, let me get this straight: I made lots of dumb comments in high school. Either I was tired, spacey or just wanting to get the teacher’s attention with a comment from the peanut gallery, but there was always some silly, random, or off-topic comment being uttered by moi.

You know how high school kids are, right? Laughing and giggling in class at stupid jokes made by ourselves or others was the perfect outlet for a bunch of hormonal teenagers who have had too little sleep. Read more…

Let’s Them Eat (and Spell) Knaidel!

Well, the word is out. It is time for a big “Mazel Tov!”

Knaidels are Yummy!

Knaidels are Yummy!

Yiddish, which some have thought was a dying language is actually alive, well and kicking.  No longer can Yiddish linguists kvetch (whine) and krechtz (moan) that “Oy, the younger generation is not even speaking Yiddish! Vat is going to become of these uncultured youth!?”

Mazel Tov!  Last week, at the Scripps National Spelling Bee in Washington, DC, the winning word (spelled by 8th Grader Arvand Mahnkali), was “Knaidel,” which is the Yiddish word for dumpling. The round soft and fluffy balls, cooked with matzah meal, eggs and oil, and eaten with Bubby’s chicken soup, and often called “matzah balls” by American speakers has now gained fame.  The word which derives from German, “knaidel” was used for the national Spelling Bee!

How cool is that! Yes, knaidels are not eaten cool – but hot, but you get the drift here.

Some ardent spellers who viewed the lucky winner spell the word and win his prize, complained that the real spelling for the word should be “kneidel” with an “ei” and not an “ai” because that is more authentic for German. Others questioned whether the word should really be spelled “knaydel”

But most were posting on Facebook the great news! The front page of the New York Times proclaimed the winning word, because it truly was an anomaly, when usually the difficult words are scientific words that are impossible to pronounce.

So here’s to the knaidel – which the facilitators of the Spelling Bee proved last week,  can be valid and strong and a sign of America’s growing multiculturalism in language and environment.

It’s All About Networking

Networking. Relationships. Social Media.

Carol Tice of the "Freelance  Writers' Den"

Carol Tice of the “Freelance Writers’ Den”

That’s what it is all about these days – when it comes to learning and growing in our personal and professional lives.

Recently, I realized the power of networking when I was invited byCarol Tice of  the Freelance Writer’s Den to come meet her at a local coffee shop in Los Angeles. Carol lives in Seattle and was going to be in LA for the weekend and  asked all her LA subscribers to join her at the Starbucks to talk shop.

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SingFit – an App for the Apple!

Imagine a whole collection of music right at your fingertips.

Singing is Fun!

Singing is Fun!

No, I’m not talking about karaoke where you have to know the words; nor am I talking about sheet music where one would have to read the words along with the music.

This is about singing songs and a digital coach actually prompting you aurally – not visually –with the words!

Now, just imagine that music can be played spontaneously with and for seniors in nursing home facilities or assisted living settings. Seniors in these settings would be completely engaged and  immersed in  singing  their favorite songs from their childhood and coming-of-age years.  Research has shown that individuals and especially seniors respond most favorably to sing-alongs of music that is retrieved from the time that they were in their adolescent and young adult years.

How wonderful for that music to be available for those who want to engage seniors in worthwhile interactive activities, bringing them socialization and good cheer.

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More Writing Buddies

As my final post for now on Writing Buddies, I would like to feature three more writing friends.  After that, I will go back to my regular Grandmother and related topics. I will return to writing buddies and book reviews at a later date.

1. Leah (Sherri) Henkin, of Growing the Write Way, is an expert in technical writing. Leah joined our group later in the game, but has quickly become an asset to our group with her helpful feedback and organized mind. Leah sees the good and beauty in all of God’s creations and is a model in building character traits. Leah has a personal relationship with many noted authors including Perel Grossman, the author of Adventures in the Produce Aisleand S. Bulman who authored two books: Tea with the Rebbetzin and Another Cup of Tea with the….  All of these books have elements of grandmothers kvelling about their grandchildren, a theme that many grandmothers can relate to!

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Candles in My Window: A Book Review

Many of us write non-fiction or short story fiction works. Yet, it takes a special skill to write a full length novel. My friend, Beth Firestone wrote Candles in My Window, a wonderful young adult novel about a teenage girl’s experience deepening her religious and spiritual awareness and observance. It is a story about adolescent friendships, conflict and growth. Adults and teenagers each will enjoy reading this exciting story.candles Read more…

An Itty Bitty Blog Post

No time for a long or even medium post today, so I’m blogging a short, itty bitty blog post.

This one’s for you, Jay.

Now, all my readers are wondering, “who the heck is Jay?”

Well, Jay is short for my dear friend, Joan’s name. I call her Jay. She calls me Em (get it? M? Miriam?).

Anyway, here’s the thing. Jay is a playwright and that’s how we met; I was in one of her plays that she wrote for a school performance. No, I wasn’t a student in the play. I was a teacher that performed for the students.

Well, that’s another story. Never mind that right now. Jay wrote a play, and I was in it.

Years later, Jay came to a group I organized for writers, and the rest is history. Jay is a part of our group till today. Even if she is not always able to attend, Jay responds to queries for feedback on my drafts.

Jay also is working on a huge project together with her husband, Mr. Ziff, who can rival Mr. Rogers (may he RIP)  in ability to reach kindergarten aged children through self esteem building.

Mr. Ziff and Jay have been working on a special curriculum for teachers to teach writing to children in preschool, and through their writing, they become excellent readers.

Find out more about that on their website. (to be posted later on this blog when I get the exact URL).

Jay is also a fabulous teacher at LAUSD’s  Warner Avenue Elementary School in Westwood, Ca.

And that’s the end of my itty bitty blogpost.

 

VWB – Very Witty and Blogless

For this post, VWB is moving away temporarily from Virtual Writing Buddies…to Very Witty and Blogless.Today I’m going to brag about my friend, Beth J.writinggroup

Beth J does not have a blog  (yet), while being  an accomplished writer and one of the original members of our writing group.

Beth has contributed some hysterical grandmother anecdotes for my book, which I dutifully camouflaged for the sake of anonymity.

Beth J. (to be distinguished from my other Beth friend, Beth F.) is witty and funny.  Her feedback is always spot on and she is an asset to our group. As a special educator at Conejo Academy, elementary schools and high schools,  she is the go-to person for tough questions about best practices in special and general education in our city.

Beth is active in Aish Hatorah, is a terrific cook, and a great “eema” of seven (mother of 7 is her moniker).

Thanks Beth for the great input you give to our group!

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